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More male or female friends?

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Eclipse, Feb 1, 2017.

  1. Eclipse

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    I struggle to make titles witty sometimes. This is one of them.

    Simply put, on the whole, do you find that you have more male or more female friends? Is the margin towards either side substantially large, or does it rest closer to fifty-fifty? Are there any particular trends or behaviours that you've noticed about yourself, your friends, and/or how you relate to one another?

    You don't have to answer all of these questions, but they are possible starting points for how to answer.

    Speaking for myself, I have found that the ratio is roughly 60% female to 40% male. Those figures aren't exact, and it may be even closer to 50/50 than I realise. I also notice I interact with each group a bit differently, as my friendships with males are more touch-and-go in nature, sometimes amounting to good time spent together but it's mostly just sharing memes. Around my female friends I share memes as well, but on average I tend to spend a little more time.

    However, if a friend is particularly close, that paradigm doesn't really apply; and I'll spend perhaps hours at a time just talking with that person and hanging out. I don't have a very large handful of close friends - largely because I tend to keep people at arm's reach - but out of those, the ratio is skewed more towards 75% female to 25% male.

    It's something that popped into my head one day as I was driving home from work and wanted something to think about, and that happened to be the subject that came to mind. I found it rather interesting, though I can only speak for myself.

    What about the rest of you, for those willing to share?
     
  2. Azazel

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    I don't have many friends, but I notice they tend to be more female, I think bc I can relate to them more as a woman myself.
    But I do have some male friends.
     
  3. ~Nova~

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    I have a lot of girl friends, since we all hang out in one big group. They're nice and all, but are surprised when I laugh at a certain joke or say something strange, because around them, I'm the quiet, observant one.

    On the other hand, my two closest friends are both guys. I talk to them so much because they'll listen to my insane ramblings and agree with me. I feel like I can really be myself around them.
     
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    I have more female friends, but the male friends I do have I'm very close to in a platonic way. I think I have over 10 female friends and 2 male friends. I guess I just relate to females more because I'm female myself, but one of my male friends is an absolute Nintendo nerd just like me.

    I'm just glad I have so many friends :D
     
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    As a younger child I had all female friends, then all male friends, and now it is more male than female friends but it is almost even. My main friend group is 3 male and 2 female (not including me) if I went through all my friends in general then I think it is still even but possibly more weighted on the male side.
     
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    Me, I have always have had more male friends. I guess I can relate to them more sometimes, as a lot of girls I personally know don't enjoy video games like I do...Though when it came to my friend group at lunch, it would be, like, 5 girls and 5 boys, even. *shrug*
     
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  7. UnstoppableGamer

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    As a male, I would like to say that I have more male friends, but over the years I would say that I gained more female. It's most likely due to the sheer amount of campy jokes I tell. (I have the most fabulous hair! None come close!) Tends to creep out straight guys.
     
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    I couldn't really say that I have more than 2 or 3 people that could possibly come under the heading of a proper friend, so most people are acquaintances I meet only because we are required to be in the same place regularly, such as class, and then never see again outside of it or after it.

    I'd estimate that I tend to form the most connections with guys, seeing as most gals will begin sitting near me and eventually move away because they have nothing in common, whereas guys tend to gravitate to my table to talk about the work at hand.

    Overall I would guess at 80% male, 20% female, most of the female is just because I think at the start when groups are being formed, girls tend to naturally gather together, but I've never found any of those relationships to actually last beyond just sitting nearby. The only ones that did last were abusive and bullying and it takes me quite some time to get rid of female company that I don't want, so that would account for any I've spent more time with.

    It's actually something I hadn't thought about before, the difficulty I have in getting girls to go away if they decide they are my friend but I don't like them, I wonder if that's an issue for others and/or guys when dealing with girls? Or from guys? Even after I caught two of them literally badmouthing me on the other side of a moveable wall partition, they continued to follow me about as normal, so... what am I missing? :P
     
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  9. JadeFox

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    I seem to have more female friends, I guess since I'm more comfortable around them. I've never really had a father figure in my life, so that might partially be the reason why. I get a little more nervous around guys (I think they're creeped out by my behavior), but that's just the way it goes. I don't know a way to show a ratio (because I've always hated those), but do I dare say 70% female to 30% male? I think that may be accurate...
     
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    Huge mix of both. Probably closer to the gals in my life but I have plenty of really close male friends too. Can't imagine having just one or the other.
     
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    Ooh this is interesting!

    I have a more noticeable amount of male friends. I dunno, they seem to be more humorous and I find that I get along better with males than females. Still have female friends obviously, but all of my closest friends online are guys and that hasn't been any different for over a decade. I can't think of many truly close girlfriends I've had... whereas I can think of at least 5-10 males without needing to spend a minute to think hah.

    Offline, I have two close female friends but they're people I met 10-15 years ago, while any other more recent acquaintance/friends I make at work or wherever else tend to be males.
     
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    I've always had way more female friends. I don't exactly set out to make it that way; it just happens. I guess I just click better with people of the same sex and it can be easier to share more intimate feelings, struggles, etc.

    But I have known some wonderful and gracious men in my life as well. My boyfriend is my best friend, but aside from him and a couple others, I've never really had any super close guy friends unfortunately.
     
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    As I child, in my early years of school, I would consider the entire grade my friends, and even more than this grade. Now, since I haven't fallen victim to society's social customs, and while they still talk briefly to me from time to time, it has changed a lot. I would say that out of all of my close friends and distant friends, me (and my sister) have more male friends than female friends. And I mean much more. I believed it stemmed out from the fourth and fifth grade, when there was a friendly rivalry between the girls and boys who thought they were better than the other (and often involved the saying of "Eww boy germs" or "Yuck, girls germs!"). Because me and my sister treated everybody equally, I think we have earned the respect of both boys and girls.

    In recent times, more male people, especially older and younger ones, tend to think we are easy to be around due to our personalities and our avoidance of being what everybody else is doing. Even online, I have more male friends than female friends, but I can't say that for my art websites.
     
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    I don't really have friends. I have friend, and friend is male. So that's that.
     
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    Most of my friends in real life are girls. I have two or three guy friends I still keep in touch with still. I've noticed this a few times, but it always slips my mind. I think the reason I'm mainly friends with girls is because I don't get on well with the guys in my area (Hot local guys near you! Click to find out more!). A ton of them drink, smoke, or just talk about the gym nonstop, and that stuff just bores me to no end.

    Online, though, I think I may actually have more guy friends than girls. I'm not really sure why that is, but I'm guessing it's that there are more common interests.
     
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    As a child I had mainly male friends but as I grew up I ended up with mainly female friends (offline that is). I have literally a couple of male friends but a handful of close female friends.
    I have a lot of male friends online though! It's about 50/50 online I feel. =3
     
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    "IRL XY or IRL XX" is a wittyish title.

    I don't really care as long as the friends involved are good ones. Specific people have characteristics to them that I enjoy. If I had to choose it would probably be a girl, but it really is the same as long as the person is great.
     
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    @[member="ClefairyKid"] I relate to your description.
    Even though when I was young, I had much more male friends than female, and my closest friend was a male, I will say your situation is closer to mine currently. In class, I'm quite surprised to admit that I think most of the people are at least earnest, but even so, it's difficult to form a real friendship bond because we lack connection. I usually just keep people around at a length where I can always approach them, so I tend to have a lot of acquaintances and a a small number of friends with diverse interests (some for video games, some for philosophical discussion, some for art, etc.). Gender-wise it's about 50/50 now.

    I also do have that problem when I get to know a girl, oftentimes a lot of other females flock around and try to make a clique. I don't necessarily like/dislike them, but they still call me a friend and will try to hang out.

    omg why x'D But what if there's a person who is IRL XXY?
     
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    Then obviously you're not allowed to post in here
     
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    To see, I have female friends to the ratio of 80% and male to 20% XD. well, I dont talk to people that much. I have more friends online than irl life cause I may have roughly like 6 friends irl XD excluding me~
     
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