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Attractions (Personality & Physical)

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Sanctuary, Nov 14, 2015.

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  1. Sanctuary

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    Most of us here have been or are attracted to another human being in some way, shape, or form.
    What are some aspects that attract you to someone else? Do you tend to look for more personality based aspects or physical aspects, or both?

    I personally look for more personality based aspects in a person, but physical appearance also attracts a great amount.
    For personality, some things that attract me are:
    • Good taste in music
    • Good sense of humor
    • At least share some of the same interests I have
    • Can hold a conversation and keep it fun
    • Can't be as dumb as a sack of bricks
    For physical appearance, some things that attract me are:
    • Long hair (sometimes short hair too)
    • Shorter than me (any girl taller than me is nope)
    • Cute laugh/voice/smile
    • Can dress cutely but doesn't always try hard to
    • Other small things
    Of course, exceptions are always made here and there. :P
     
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  2. Almandine-G

    Almandine-G All Men Are Equal

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    I don't usually get attracted to anyeone. Actually I'm pretty much aromantic haha, but I'd definitely focus almost entirely on personality. Physical portions really mean nothing to me, whether it's height, voice or "attractive curves"

    If I had to say what I looked for personality-wise, I'd look for someone kind and caring, but still a firm hand who would be happy enough helping me out in my difficulties (I make a lot of mistakes for one). I'd like them to share at least one or two of my interests, and be willing to listen to any more I may have, cause if they liked something I didn't or never heard of, I'd love to hear their take on it.

    That's, pretty much it haha. I don't really look for much in people, just so long as I get along with them, and they likewise. Cause if there's somebody I find who I get along with, I abandon my usual route of contentment in ones self and often stick around with them a fair bit. I talk to myself a lot (not sure why... I just like talking I guess?) so it's always nice when there's somebody to talk back to me who may have differeing views to my own. That way we can have a proper conversation!
     
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  3. Weedle Enthusiast

    Weedle Enthusiast Resident Weedle Enthusiast

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    My requirements for even being considered:
    -I must be able to look at them without being disgusted. That isn't being shallow, that's just that I'd rather be able to look at someone i dated
    -Can't be one of the few kinds of people that annoy me (like those that act like idiots, the kind you want to wack)

    Things that attract me:
    -Don't really know what attracts me physically too much, but generally those that care about their appearance, though not overly so helps. Think its the whole aspect of caring for themselves enough to put some effort in
    -A personality that doesn't match my own entirely, but that i don't clash with
    -Some shared interests
    -Kind
    -Nothing else really seems too connected, except gender, that being female
     
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  4. LadySmugleaf

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    Hmm... Well, I like guys. That's for sure.
    That's pretty much all I know. I've had very few crushes and all of them haven't led to anything. (Mostly I'm trying to learn to be happy with being single because I don't want to attract the wrong kind of guys or say yes because I'm desperate.)

    The biggest thing is that i want someone to accept me for who I am and who will respect me. I don't care what they look like quite honestly.
    I want someone smart, someone passionate, I want someone that shares at least one of my passions or interests.
     
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  5. Absolute Zero

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    There are a few things that are deal-breakers for me. Smoking (or vaping), excessive wild partying (because I simply can't come along), and people who are just total A-holes. Just... no.

    That said, I like smart women with healthy habits, who care about themselves and the people around them, and who are... um... active (as long as they're smart about it, "smart" being the first trait I mentioned at all, even before "woman").

    As for looks, all I care is her looks reflect her health. Clean teeth, clear skin, and a whole range of body types are all signs of good health. I just don't want you dying at 45 and I need to carry on to 90 without you! Beyond that, I admit I do like ladies wearing goth fashions, and I've been told I tend to chase after ladies of the traits "dark-skinned" or "chesty". I mean I don't write off any shape or ethnicity (except those blasted Atlantean women, they're all disease-spreading succubi who drink your blood and move on to the next victim. Or is that female mosquitoes?) as being outside my tastes but maybe I am drawn more to certain facial structures, skintones, and bodytypes. I just care most about looks of good health and paragraph 2.
     
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  6. Noa

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    I have physical preferences but I don't usually like making them known. I feel it's rude. I will say I'm attracted to all genders though.

    As for personality, I like someone who is not afraid to stand up for themselves and doesn't take anything from anyone, yet is also warm and kind. I like people who are goofy and make lots of jokes. Really, I just want someone I can be comfortable around and be myself around.
     
  7. Doomhound

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    I'll admit, I like girls... yeah. I like girls. That being said...
    most awkard intro ever. That also being said...
    I'll also admit I am a guy, and have those physical attractions towards the stereotypical "good looks" of females. If a girl in a "hot body" also happens to have a good personality, I'm certainly not going to complain. That's not to say there are other attractions though. A cute/nice face is good, and completely my discretion to decide on what's cute. Body size isn't the biggest issue, so long as the person is not a 24/7 anime couch potato who eats raw ramen because the microwave is too far away. I'd probably choose the cute girl over the "hot body" girl, although again my definition of those two classifications are my opinion and might not match someone else's.

    Personality wise, there are some qualifications that I would like/need to see. Religious, and specifically of my religion, is a big one. You won't find me dating an atheist or a worshiper of stars, religion is too important to me for that to be a source of conflict. Also, as it might be phrased, the girl in question cannot be as dumb as their cardboard doppelganger. She doesn't have to graduate from ivy league schools, or even college. School smarts are one thing, I'd like to see through high school, "street smarts" are another and include some things like common sense. I might not date the stereotypical blonde, but at the same time not all blondes fit the stereotype. Responsibility is big, so I probably won't date a smoker or party girl. Being responsible with money is also a part of that. Being a gamer would be a great bonus, but at least someone who doesn't hate video games is a nice qualification.

    The number of girls that fit these qualifications- less than I hope, less than I probably think. The chances of me dating one of these girls- due to shyness, chances of finding one of these girls in my area, actually talking to these said girls, whatever factors... less than 9000. Smaller than what I'd hope, that's for sure. Which qualifications I have to compromise on? I guess we'll just have to see
     
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  8. East

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    Over the years, I've struggled with the issue of labeling my attraction tendencies. Thus, I've decided to not do so! I'm an open book on the subject and do not mind expressing my thoughts, though that's for another time.
    Romantically, the biggest and most important quality in people I'm attracted to is respectfulness. Other important qualities to me include, but are not limited to, compassionate, humorous, and empathetic (to some degree). I've had very few times where I've had romantic attraction toward someone, so there is not much for me to comment on for this.
    Physically, I'm going to have to plead the fifth amendment for the same reason as @[member=Noa]:


    Though I will say that my experience with physical attraction is even more limited than my romantic attraction. This shouldn't be confused with asexuality or having overly high appearance "standards" since I simply have a different way that I'm attracted to other humans physically.
     
  9. ✯Ho-OhLugia✯

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    Physically wise, I accept everybody. Personality wise, I do too, but I get along well with people who:

    - Are kind
    - Do not take advantage of me
    - Do not think badly about me
    - Love all animals, including snakes and insects
    - Love Pokémon and Nintendo, but don't try to compete with me for how much we love it
    - Always encourage me
    - Are gentle
    - Do not yell at me
    - Do not put me down
    - Understand me
    - Speak grammatically correct and do not write using text-talk
     
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    First off, I likr girls, just in case there was any doubt (I'm not sure why there would be, but just makin sure). I have quite a few physical attractions and they shall not be listed, but I do take looks and body (I will say I go for athletic people) into account when I'm thinking about whether I would date somebody.

    As far as personality:
    Somebody with at least some of the same interests as me
    Somebody who isn't really politically correct/has the somewhat same sense of humor I do
    Somebody who isn't afraid to get a little dirty (mud dirty)
    Someone who isn't a total bitch
    That being said, somebody who isn't too nice, I mean that the person needs to be able to be mean when needed and can throw comebacks back on the fly xD
    Someone who is at least a little independent
    And honesty is a huge one


    I'm kinda lenient on some of those, but that's kinda my dream girl as far as personality goes :P
     
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  11. BiohazardSr

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    Looks are a good quality, but shouldn't be the dominating one. Personality is important if you're going for long term.

    I find interest in people who can deal with my anger, can cope with my humour and make their own jokes, and intelligence

    When I say deal with my anger, I don't mean line being able to not be bothered by it, I mean understand where it's coming from and at least attempting to help.
     
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  12. Eru Iluvatar

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    The first thing I look for is a sense of humour. If they share mine, that's a massive plsu for me c:

    While personality is important, looks matter too. There's just ono way around it. That said, I prefer pretty over hot and cute over diva. I don't really know how else to explain it, really.
     
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  13. JirachiWish

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    I'm not too specific about physical appearance but I do like short hair, preferably dark brown, and a SLIGHT bit of chub.

    Personality wise I'm EXTREMELY fussy, I could make a long list of my 'requirements' but I'll just say it has to be someone forgiving, modest, caring to everyone, good-tempered, and quiet with similar likes and dislikes as me, and they can't be overly perverted, smoke or drink at all, or swear other than milder words like crap and hell.
     
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  14. Sylar

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    i think personality is far more important​
    because people may be ''hot'' but if they are a real bitch then it ain't any good , now is it​
    personality things i find attractive
    music person​
    animal lover​
    creative on computer or drawing​
    honest​
    caring​
    loyal​
    not too lazy​
    and few more other things​
    looks i find attractive
    fringe​
    skate boys​
    beanies​
    hoodies​
    and must have got cute smile​
     
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  15. Wizard

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    This is an interesting question that I always enjoy answering. What makes a person attractive? I definitely agree that it is not a physical thing, although that can be a major part of attraction. To me, the personality shows a little more than the appearance (don't judge me).

    The thing that I look for most in a girl physically is that she has to take of herself. If she is a slob, or unnecessarily overweight, then I don't bite. That's not to say that I don't like other things such as
    • Shorter than me
    • Long hair (most of the time)
    • Sense of humor
    • Patience! (I'm weird, people need patience)
    • Street-smart
    Those are pretty much to the basics to what I like, there are a few other weird things that I like that aren't inappropriate, but I doubt I'll say in public as they are just a little... strange. I'll share just one, but I like lisps, I don't know why, I find them cute.

    I have this thing that I call the "personality test" and I haven't used it yet. When it comes time for me to find a girlfriend, I will go ahead and employ this beforehand. It involves going to a fast food restaurant and having the girl order the food. You can see what type of person she is by the way she treats the workers/employees there. You can also do this with animals, as a person's true personality will come out a lot of the time.

    I got a little off topic, but I think it's relevant. It's important to know what you want in a person before you go looking for that special someone, and I can't really stress that enough. It's good to know what you are attracted to, and to know what you are willing to sacrifice (good looks, etc.).
     
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  16. LostSpirit

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    Oh boy attractions. Hmm..
    Well. I'm more attracted to boys than I am to girls.
    Looks
    - Taller than me
    - Bisceps there
    - Clean cut
    - Does not look like he would mug someone
    - Smile that goes a mile
    - Well-groomed hair
    Personality
    - Friendly
    - Someone who is open with their thoughts
    - Patience
    - Honesty
    - Knowledgeable about the world
    - Clever
    - Not super lazy


    I like nice guys.
     
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  17. DoctorFlygon

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    Aaaaaaaaahahaha, yes, an opportunity to discuss the romantic thoughts stuck within my mind nigh-permanently! Behold, the results of my long-held loneliness and desire for companionship in spite of my age!

    ...*ahem*

    Well, you can't quite say there's one type you could fall for, because that's just not how it works. Love can take you by complete surprise. Anyway, here's physical things I find attractive...
    • Uh, height-wise... I like it when a girl's around my height. It'd be kinda hard for it to flow well if they towered over me or vice-versa.
    • Dark hair. I don't know why, but I like dark hair. Probably the curse of having blonde hair. But, like, dark hair, especially longer hair, is really attractive for me.
    • Glasses. Yeah, they just add this touch, I can't describe it... they can look sophisticated, they can look cute, but they just WORK most of the time.
    • I know this is clothes wise, but... modesty. I don't find girls who dress skimpily attractive. At all.
    • Kinda the same as above, but... I don't like makeup. I guess it's not that bad in low amounts, but fake tan and stuff is gross to me. If it works for you, go ahead, whatever makes you happy with your appearance, but don't expect me to be attracted in particular.
    Personality-wise... well, I typed up a long list of necessities, but then I remembered this is just things you find attractive, not things you see as being required for a good relationship. So yeah, a bit of a waste, but I could always type it again.

    But, uh... I honestly like girls who are random. No, NOT "lol random xD" type random (random tidbit, it's my personal opinion that adding "XD" or some form of it instantly makes whatever you're saying less funny unless done ironically), just off the wall. Crazy. Not the type that dwells on being random and advertises it, just the kind of person who's naturally... weird. I guess being happy is attractive to me. I dunno, I'm quite a brooding person tbh, and I really, really admire those people who can just stay positive and happy in a non-obnoxious, invasive way. It's truly just an amazing thing when I see it, and those kinds of people can usually cheer me up... I guess I kinda want whoever I fall in love with to be able to comfort me and stuff. I mean... obviously if I would enter a relationship with someone, their presence alone would usually cheer me up, that's what it's like to really love someone when they love you back, but I dunno, just that genuine, admirable positivity is a beautiful trait to have.

    Uh, anyway, sorry if that took up a lot of space.
     
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  18. Azazel

    Azazel Better count your blessings

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    I'm bi, so I guess my ideal person;

    Personality: Understanding, Honest, not mean to others with me being the "exception", can get along with my family and friends.
    Looks: As long as you have and maintain a clean manner, I'll probably be fine.
     
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