Concealing emotions

Usually with me, though I don't always need to or show any sign of it, I have pretty deep trust issues from many bad experiences, either from so called family or "friends". So because of those experiences I tend to keep a lot of emotions and feelings/thoughts to myself, in order to protect myself from being hurt again.

It doesn't always work though, heh. It's not like I want to be mistrusting of everyone, I'd like to be able to openly trust people from the beginning but that saying "once bitten, twice shy" is definitely one that I familiarize and sympathize with. .__.

 

To be blunt, I have pretty serious issues with self-esteem and I've had this issue my entire life. So for me, it is completely natural to hide my emotions.
I also work fast food and that means always being cheerful and perky, no matter what is happening or how I really feel.

It's really good easy to not show how much I'm really hurting. Everyone expects me to always be happy and cheerful and bubbily. I'm an actress, I can be her. I can pretend to be perfect, that's what the audience expects after all. Maybe I can fool myself and not hurt anymore.
Besides, no one cares that I'm in pain. They just want to see me be forever happy. If they don't know I'm hurting, then I won't be scorned for it. It's perfect!
...right?

 

It's always best to "not tell the whole story". People need to learn to control themselves more, and when they do vent, do it privately. I am a very confident individual, and I never (and I mean NEVER) express myself to other people, unless it is a positive gesture such as a quick snicker, or simply being happy and having an optimistic and intellectual conversation; whatever catches my interest. Expressing personal life problems, especially to people who you don't know that well, really leads nowhere. You're more or less caught in a vicious cycle. You talk about your problems, but how long before you have the "need" to do it again. I think these are the people who are self-conscious. There are circumstances when showing a negative emotion such as sadness is acceptable, such as when a loved one passes on. When it comes to the minor issues in life though, such as: "I hate my job. I wish I had it better", what exactly are you accomplishing? You're whining about it without taking a rational approach or action. In a nutshell, this makes you self-conscious to reality. Maybe some people are self-conscious about sharing their feelings, but for people such as myself, I just don't see the purpose of sharing my emotions. A nice, lengthy debate about something in particular, or engaging in something that isn't always small talk, is what makes me the person whom I'm more than satisfied with.

 

As you mature, you learn to control your emotions, not conseal them. I let my emotions flow, but i can control them.

Its good to let people kbow your current state if mind. If i am in love with someone i say it. If i hate soneone i say it. If i think one is being stupid i say it. Being mature is not not to feel. Its all about controll and healthy expressing.

 

Controlling - a better word, I think - one's emotions is oftentimes necessary. If one chooses to unrestrictedly bare their emotions to the world, one must be prepared to be swept by the rough winds and waves of the ocean that is life. Sometimes though, it is okay to let people whom your trust know of your emotional state when needed so as not to be completely isolated and to receive emotional support. It's all about control.

As for me, I'm quite reserved, thus I prefer to keep my emotions to myself most of the time. I don't like troubling people with how I am feeling, unless they are genuine about connecting with me on an emotional level.

 

Ah, a subject I am intimately familiar with. Wonderful.

I should probably start out by noting that not wanting to talk about something is usually not linked to an emotion, but rather, to hide away a pain, to not have others' perception of you affected, or - a combination of both - to not open up your personal self to scrutiny. Pain and hurt are not emotions.

As for myself it depends on my audience...heavily. There are only a few people which I trust with my innermost self; with others I simply try to steer the conversation away to something similar (which may or may not be related), or just say outright "I do not wish to talk about it at this time". I am very honest, both with myself and with others. If I say that I do not wish to talk about something, then I do not wish to talk about it, and the respectful way to handle that is to move on to another subject.

Emotions are something I suppress. Any emotions that I do feel or allow to radiate are very minor and subdued, but they are focused enough to allow others to get the composite picture. If I am thinking a certain way, and asked about it, I will communicate that, as much as I am comfortable with sharing. The innermost struggles of the mind are not things to be trifled with and subjected to the world at large; they are to be kept close, shared only with those with whom you share a bond of deepest trust.

I appear to have strayed considerably from the original question, but I feel it is because that the original question is very broad and open-ended, and allows a multitude of different paths and interpretations from it. And this is my path I draw from it.

 

My family is about the only ones who know that I hide stuff. I know for a fact that people wouldn't understand my feelings because I'm Borderline, most of my feelings are inappropriate or strange. Most others just accept it and don't pry.

 

I often conceal my emotions, and I'd like to think I am decent at it.

There are, however, certain points I will reach where it is difficult or I am unable to, but for the most part I am able to keep them under control.

For most of my life I've had issues with self-confidence and self-"worth", which i believe has had a part in me hiding them as often as I do.

 

I would agree that people who are good at concealing their emotions are often manipulative and deceptive- mainly because I believe myself to be highly skilled in masking how I truly feel, and I would absolutely say that I can also be manipulative and deceptive.

I like being in control of things. I have been let down too often to easily trust others to handle things, so I learned at an early age to master the art of manipulating conversations and others. Not for malicious intent, of course, but the skill has been invaluable at influencing others to think I feel a certain way about something. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that my ability to mask my true feelings is one of my greatest strengths.

I find that I use this skill most of the time when in leadership positions and when conflict arises between two groups. As someone in charge, I can't show (openly, at least) favoritism to any one group or individual. Likewise, when mediating conflict I cannot (openly) try to benefit one side when settling the dispute.

In other news, I actually managed to convince someone that I really despise that I was their best friend. I needed him to help me with a personal project, but he's a horrible person. He still thinks I'm his friend.

 

I used to have a bad problem with holding in emotions as a kid, haha. There were bad results to being openly emotional when I was younger so I opted to act stoic at all times and eventually it ended up building into stress and snapping with anger or being crushingly depressed. I managed to get out of it after going through counselling though, thankfully. I'm still a bit all over with emotions though and I find myself struggling to identify what I'm feeling;;; It all kind of feels the same and positive emotions are kind of fleeting.
Most of the time I just pick an emotion and roll with it, which I guess sounds kind of like deception? That's not generally my intent though, rather I want to provide a positive atmosphere for other people. When I'm talking with people I'll act happy as often as possible, though it can be a struggle to do so when depression decides to ruin my day > _ >
I don't see a problem with controlling emotions so long as you're not manipulating people through it. Your emotions are yours to handle, but don't use them to play with people.

 

The Last Thursday of school i tried so hard to conceal my emotions, like i successfully do the other times but it didn't work that day. Some boy tried to comfort me but i kept pushing him away, i was crying while he was doing that. I feel so sorry that i pushed him away like that.

 

Concealing emotions is best at a funeral; but a funeral is probably one of the worst experinces a person could have. I try my best to conceal my emotions; no matter how stressed I am until I reach my breaking point. I worry about others all that much, there isn't that much time in the world to worry about myself.

My breaking point happens pretty rarely, but everyone knows that i conceal my emotions.

 

I'm reserved and like to keep my emotions to myself since I feel like people never understand how I feel or what situation I'm in, and I just feel like when I do reveal what I'm feeling, they just condemn me for it and make me feel worse and so I'm more of a self-conscious person.

 

I need to conceal emotions a lot, but my case is a little different from others. People say I always look sad when I'm not smiling, but in reality I'm not actually sad. So for me, I don't have to work to conceal my emotions as much as I have to work at keeping a face that nobody will ask what's wrong.