Some people are just very generous, giving, or just outgoing. If asked for help and various requests, they'd always love to help out and contribute their time, if for nothing else as to not feel bad or come off like a jerk. But volunteering one's self too often can come with a drawback; you stretch yourself too thin, and you end up with either not enough time to fulfill everyone's requests, or you're simply too stressed out by all the things you've committed to. Do you have a hard time saying 'no'? Is it something current or ongoing? Did you have it once but not anymore? Are you currently working on it so that you'll say 'yes' less often? :::: Here's my answer to the above question: I'm not sure if I ever was fully in this situation, but I know I've come close before. I think part of that was that my mum had this problem before (and she knew it), and it took a lot of conscious effort to get out of the habit. I myself am somewhat similar, in that I like to help out people, but I stopped myself by making it about time and feasibility. If I know the request is something I know that I can reasonably or feasibly do, then I will do it. Otherwise, I will not. I value my word very highly, as my promises are essentially verbal contracts. Therefore, I don't want to commit to something if I know I'll have doubts about it, or will be otherwise unable to fulfill the request.
I used to be, but after wasting countless hours of my time just because I didn't say "no" I've changed a lot.
I do have some trouble saying 'no.' If it's just outside of my abilities, then saying 'no' to a request is easier, but otherwise I'll almost always say 'yes.' I also have trouble backing out of requests, even if it's giving me grief. This is partly because of my own stubbornness and partly because I don't want to let anyone down, but this is all because I have trouble speaking my mind at times. I've been getting a little better at all of this, but it's still something I struggle with.
I've never had trouble saying no, if I didn't say no I wouldn't even have tine to sleep. While I do wanna help people with stuff sometimes is just not possible and I have to say no since I don't wanna wear myself ragged.
I've always had a bit of trouble saying no, especially to people I care about. It's not really guilt or anything; maybe obligation? I'm a bit better at it now than I used to be, but I had to make a few mistakes to get there.
I just don't wanna disappoint people so I say yes even if I really don't want to. I could use a bit more back bone honestly.
I still have a bit of a problem telling people no, but it is becoming slightly better now. The first time I put my foot down over something cost me a friendship, but in the end, it is a lot better this way. Because I choose myself and my health over someone else's and it did free me from a semi-toxic relationship with my friend.
I learned to say no after knowing that a lot of people ask for something but never gives help back. It was hard, but sometimes you need to say NO. Everyone has a limit and once they reach it there is no way back
Yes...and no. I have a harder time saying 'no' to close friends or family, but I do have my limits. It really depends on how much I value the person, and how much I trust that they will help me in return. Those who I don't know, I will do small things for. As long as it fits into the few hours I'm awake every day, that is... #MissingNo
I do... and I don't understand why especially when it comes to my family and it's something I don't want to do. I'm known to be very kind and nice in RL and a bit shy as well. Of course I'll be saying yes a lot but I struggle to say no once in awhile. I need to work on this.
I have trouble saying it purely because I don't want to hurt anyone. I've seen my friends (and even me to an extend) in situations where "no" would lead into an uncontrollable spiral or problems, so it's hard for me to say. I have been getting better though. But I still can't do it very well ack
No. (see what I did there XD? no? okay) In all honesty, I probably say no more than I say yes to things, which I'm working on. If I don't say yes to enough things then I'll miss out on possible experiences! Ironically, I think me saying "no" comes from the fact that I'm pretty shy. Saying no used to be my defense mechanism and my way of retreating back into my shell. Now, I'm just trying to work on having a balance of yes and no and I think Lake Valor has helped a lot with that! I almost said "no" to doing the Summer Scramble, and "no" to joining LV...I'm really glad that I didn't in the end!
It depends on how familiar I am with whoever's asking. If it's someone I don't know all that well or we're friends but not very close then I have a hard time saying no because I don't like disappointing people. In contrast, if it's family asking then I have an easier time declining requests, although it's more the case of I could say no but I choose not to anyway. Of course if I can't do it then I'll say no regardless of who's asking.
One general rule about me: if I can do it, I'll do it. The answer to the question is yes. Back then, I was incredibly naive and would just do things because people wanted me to and during sixth grade (one of my "lower" points in life), I did so for anyone because I was desperate for a friend. Now, I know things that are obviously a scam but I still do things for people who ask nicely because I like helping people. But for people I don't really like, I wished it was easier to say no to them.
It sometimes depends on who's asking and how I'm feeling. But in general, that normally is something I struggle with. Not a whole lot of people ask me for help with things, but when they do, I almost always help out as long as it's something I can do without it distracting me from what's important.
I find that sometimes I will just automatically say yes to something before I've even fully processed what it is I've been asked to do. Fortunately it doesn't happen to often, though.
I don't usually have a problem saying no, simply because I'm the kind of person who's too afraid of their comfort zone... But my family has constantly been trying to push me out of it. There will always be limits though.
If I feel strange about something I will always say no, even if it is towards my best friend. I used to never say no in fear that I would not fit in, and I got severely damaged because of it. Once I saw one of my friends do something and not say no, I completely changed my personality. I will say no now, and voice my opinion on why, but I am not going to be too mean about it hahaha.
I used to have a lot of trouble saying no, especially to the people who I cared about. I've been learning to be more assertive for a while and have gotten better, though I still have trouble occasionally.
