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Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Azazel, Jan 31, 2016.

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  1. Azazel

    Azazel Better count your blessings

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    Have you ever done anything that, in your mind, is unforgivable? Who to? You don't have to state what it is if you're not comfortable.

    I have hurt friends in the past, even years past, and I still can't forgive myself for it. Although I've apologized, when I think about it, it still hurts.
     
  2. 8542Madness

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    The fact that you posted this today in particular really drives the knife in my heart deeper. Not your fault, you couldn't have known.

    In short, yeah. I fucked up. Hard. I thought I was doing the right thing and it was absolutely not. I'm sure my once-friend hates me now, and I completely deserve it. I don't deserve that friendship back or his forgiveness.
     
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  3. Azazel

    Azazel Better count your blessings

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    I'm sorry to hear that Madness :( I wish I could do something to make you feel better! Stay strong, time will heal the wounds I'm sure.
     
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  4. ✯Ho-OhLugia✯

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    I always feel really terrible after I do the slightest bit wrong, so you can just imagine how I feel everyday. I just want to apologize to anybody I've hurt in my lifetime, and I am so glad to have forgotten.
     
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  5. Sanctuary

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    In my life, I've done countless things I regret. I will forever live wishing that I could go back in time to fix these things, or that I wish I could start my life over while still knowing what to do and what not to do. The fact that I know this'll never happen saddens me deeply.

    Most of the things I've said and done that I regret are to my family members and a few specific friends.
    I won't get too much into it, but I simply wish I was a better son and brother when I was younger. I still make some decisions I know I'll quickly regret to this day, but they're less severe now.
    As for friends, I can only think of one situation I really regret back when I 13. I lost my best friend at the time because of jealousy and wanting to prove a point. However, we patched things up a year or so after, and we became even better friends afterwards (plus, she realized I was right all along afterwards). I still talk to her from time to time, but not as often as I used to. I was talking to her an hour or 2 ago though and we made plans to play some online games or watch a movie together like we used to, which I'm kinda looking forward to since I very much enjoy her company.
    But I digress. Other than that situation, there haven't been any other major regrets that I can currently think of. I can name a few small ones, but they don't matter as much.

    However, similar to how I've done unforgivable things in the past to others, others have done unforgivable things in the past to me.
    Apologizing for your actions is great, because you know what you did wrong. However, in some situations, it really doesn't cut it.
    If you tried and successfully hurt me with words (though not likely) and apologize with sincere words, I'll probably forgive you.
    However, if you hurt me physically/emotionally through a physical action that makes me feel sad, angry, annoyed, or all of the above, then words are simply not enough for me.
    You can apologize if you want, that's fine, I'll acknowledge almost any apology. But that doesn't mean I'll accept it, and you can bet that I won't be forgetting what happened any time soon.
    If you're being apologized to, always say "I acknowledge/accept your apology" instead of "It's okay", because saying "It's okay" implies that you're alright with it happening again.
    I got a bit sidetracked with this post, so about half of this is only semi-relevant, but I got a lot on my mind and needed to spill it somewhere.
     
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    BiohazardSr My name is Sid. Sid the Bard

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    A good life is full of regrets. Some of mine are from apologizing too much and worrying about it all. I still do this, but boot as much I'd like to hope.

    Now I've done plenty of things I regret. I regret I choose to bad driver, as now a friend doesn't like getting in the car with me. I've said things on accident and on purpose that I don't like. And I've done actions that I hate myself for, but do not regret for the necessity of it. I won't say what these things are (mostly because I've forgotten most of them), but I've experienced many of bad choices in my lifetime
     
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  7. Eclipse

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    My answer to this is more than just a simple "perhaps". It comes forth as a "yes, most certainly".

    The reason I maintain so few close friendships to this day isn't just because I am poor at making friends (I believe I still am, but that is not the main issue). It is because I have done things to actively hurt, damage, or jeopardise the friendship without cause (emphasis on 'without cause'). I was rather forceful, felt the need to express a point, wanted people to respect or even accept my take or side of the argument... You get the idea.

    Because of that I have very few true friends left, ones that I've held close to my heart, enough so that I can count them only on one hand. (I can count to 9 on one hand, and 99 on two, so it isn't quite as horrifying as you may be led to believe). But the fact remains that these events happened.

    A good friend of mine - who I met after those events happened - shared with me his philosophy on life: "Time machines don't exist". It seems such a vapid and stupidly obvious statement, but think about what that statement implies. There aren't ways to flawlessly fix our mistakes. What we do will leave marks on both parties, some of which cannot be healed because one of the parties will simply walk away and not look back before it can begin, which is what happened to me, as I could not bring myself to turn back on those I considered my friends, even though they hated me.

    I've had to make my actions very intentional. I try not to bother or frustrate people unless I clearly communicate my intent beforehand that my words will challenge people. I try to be amicable to all humans and show an outward display of courage and stability, even at times when I feel fraught with worry and I must generate a façade. Most of how I caused people to be hurt in the past was due to this, that I did not communicate my intentions clearly - or that I simply had the wrong intentions in mind, fueled by my own wants on how to maintain the friendship.

    There are people that I know I will never meet again because of this, and I accept that. For me, accepting makes it somewhat easier to bear, as I know that I no longer have the power to change or influence the situation no matter what I do. This doesn't mean that I'm pleased with the outcome; it simply means that I've made peace with it. It's also contributed largely to what has molded and shaped me into the dragon that I am today - a calm, eloquent, yet unusual character, who has few problems with deriving examples from its personal life to prove a point, no matter how painful they were (or are) for me.

    And that... That is why I have no emotions.
     
  8. LunarRabbitPikachu

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    Oh man... I'm extremely apologetic when if comes to realizing the choices I've made. In the past (at around middle school years), I had made several huge mistakes such as lying to my family and hurting someone. But that was when I was in my depressed stage where I hardly cared about anything a bit, mostly myself. But when it comes to hurting someone now, I'd mostly do anything to show how sorry I am. It hurts me emotionally (physically as well in the past of my middle school years since I was in the... depressed... stage) when I did something wrong to someone, especially to people I care about.

    For other people apologizing to me, it mostly depends on the situation. Small, tiny mistakes or accidents are easy for me to forgive. Accidents happen at times and I would most likely let it go. If someone I know hurts me and then apologizes, I'd give them a second chance... In my opinion, everyone deserves a second chance, especially to people you care about. However if they break that chance, then the results will not end well for me. I'd most likely never talk to them again unless they finally understand what they've done and apologize to me when I'm with someone else.
     
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