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Increase intelligence?

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Azazel, Nov 27, 2018.

  1. Azazel

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    This may seem like a joke but I'm 100% serious so please no joke replies, I need actual advice.

    I feel like I'm, well, stupid. I have a hard time with even simple things like forming complete sentences, and don't get me started on paragraphs. I cannot write at all to save me and my speech is even worse. I can't get my thoughts out, I can't remember anything, I can't explain anything.

    I know I'm autistic but isn't this just a bit too stupid? How will I ever succeed?
     
  2. Mandriel

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    It sounds like you have an issue with communicating your thoughts. I don't know if this is linked to intelligence, but I don't believe it entirely is. For all I know, it could be your brain working at a different speed to your mouth or hands.

    I think I've got a similar issue as an autistic person with ADHD. My thoughts seem clear until I have to write or speak them - more often than not I find my thoughts have holes in them or are unfinished once they're vocalised or visualised. Even if I understand something perfectly, I can have immense difficulty explaining it to someone.

    In the way of fixing this issue, I'm not too sure what could be done. I'd say practice, but I have no idea if that'll work. Not too helpful, sorry. Maybe patience and understanding from other people? Being under stress can make it harder to articulate your thoughts, and support and confidence can be a big help.

    Hope this helped somewhat!
     
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  3. Barandofl

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    I'm going to be honest with you Ares. That stuff about forming complete sentences isn't as uncommon as you think. I know many people (my older brother included) who have very similar issues. For example, my brother isn't the sharpest tool in the shed, he's stumbles a good bit when he speaks and is much worse with paragraphs. His writing skills are absolutely terrible and he can't spell words correctly so he has to constantly ask if he wrote it correct (It gets bothersome after a while). Personally, I used to be terrible at writing. But I practiced writing fanfiction and eventually I got better at it.

    What I'm trying to say is, that everyone struggles with some specific things in their lives, but if you're really determined to get better, then some practice with some assistance (checks for misspells and pronunciations), I believe that you'll be able to improve.

    Also, that part about being autistic, isn't such a huge problem. I'm friends with an autistic Australian, and he's like a mini grammar nazi. Yes, being autistic can be of some trouble, but I believe it's still manageable.

    I hope any of this helped.
     
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  4. Dawn

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    I think it's important to remember that there are many kinds of intelligence, and just because you may not be as intelligent in one aspect of life as you perceive others to be does not mean you don't excel in another...or that they don't feel the same way when talking to you. But self-awareness, understanding things - even if you can't explain them - logic, and even emotion are all kinds of intelligence. "Intelligence" as a concept is a little overrated in my opinion, because it's inherently judgemental and value-based, when looking at it objectively we're all intelligent in our own way.

    I guess my first piece of advice would be to take a step back and see if you can learn to be a little more comfortable with the person that you are first. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself, but I believe you can do that without putting yourself down by labelling yourself as "stupid" or similar.

    The easiest thing you can do is read, I think. You will learn more quickly just by reading about things - whatever interests you if you have a particular topic you'd like to pursue, and there are a lot of self-help books designed to help you structure an approach to improving general life skills that may or may not work for you. If they work, that's fantastic...and if they don't, then you've learned something new about yourself: that a certain method doesn't work for you. So it's never a loss, and you'll always gain something from it.

    If you want to develop speech and language skills, practice is important too - talk to people you're comfortable with, or at least people you can tolerate.
     
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  5. Gazi

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    My first piece of advice is to not call yourself stupid. Not in your head, and definitely not out loud. Intelligence is relative, and doesn't have anything to do with your communication skills, or lack thereof.
    I'm also autistic (technically, I have Asperger's, but that's on the autism spectrum, and I personally feel better about thinking of myself as autistic). I don't struggle with communication the way that you do, most of my problems with talking to people is nerves, but there have been times where I have stumbled through my words and just haven't been able to speak what I want to say.

    Your brain is wired differently than other people's are (I apologize if you don't like that wording, but that's how I understand it), but that doesn't make you any more or less intelligent. Your mind is capable of doing a lot of things. I think that there are two important things that you should do right now. First, find and take notice of things that you are good at that other people may struggle with. You've noticed the 'bad' ways that your mind is different from others, now you need to find the 'good' ways. Maybe you're good at puzzles, or drawing, or photography. I don't know, but find something.

    Second, I think it's good for you to have a way to express yourself to other people. Everybody needs an outlet and way to connect with those around them, and if talking isn't yours, then find something else that is. I know that for me it's writing, but you need to find what works for you.

    If you aren't already, I would suggest seeing a psychologist or counselor, but I know that it's not an option for everybody. I don't know if any of this helps you, but I sincerely hope that you're able to find peace with who you are.
     
  6. Absolute Zero

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    Reiterating what others have said: you're not stupid, so don't say that you are. In fact, if you were stupid, you would probably think you were the only smart person on the planet. You have the wisdom to know that you're a human with human limits, and that's a lot.

    There's a quote attributed to Einstein (who knows if he ever said it), but it goes like this: "if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will think it's stupid" because fish aren't good at climbing trees. When I told that to my dad, he said "I guess that makes me a monkey who can't swim", which I think is an excellent addition. The point is, even if you're bad at composing thoughts into communicated sentences and paragraphs (which you've indicated right here that you're not: you're a better communicator than most of the people out there in the big, scary jungle of the internet), you're probably good enough at something else.

    For instance: I'm told I'm good with words, but people seem surprised when I tell them I'm bad with letters. Sure, I can compose poetry and give presentations and am generally a smooth talker... but when it comes to the letters that make words, I'm no good. Don't ask me "what's another word you can spell with the letters in Pelican?" or "can you help me with this crossword?" or "when does E come before or after I?", because I simply don't know. If you're judging me on my ability to play Scrabble, then of course I'll look like an idiot. But if you judge me on my ability write poetry or prose or present a project, then I may well seem like a blessed genius. If the people around you are judging you solely on your way with words, then you're going to seem like a fish who can't climb a tree (even if you're not a squirrel, you are certainly at least a raccoon or a cat or something). All you need to do is try things until you find the thing you're good at, then become even better at it.
     
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  7. FireSpartan5

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    A lot of people with autism here. I’ll be adding one more. I have Aspergers, and while it’s more mild than other forms of autism, it still limits my social skills. The best thing would be getting therapy early on, but it’s a bit too late for that now. Therapy may still help, but it won’t be able to eliminate the problem. That takes confidence, and careful consideration. Think carefully about what you are going to say before you say it, and that will help a ton. As for confidence, it just helps in presentation. Honestly it’s not a huge deal, but still incredibly helpful. You definitely aren’t stupid. Autism doesn’t affect intelligence, just social skills, and the ability to communicate, whether through a speech impediment (more severe) or just a lesser understanding of others, and them of you. My Aspergers lowers my social skills, but it improves my emotional maturity, my logical reasoning, and oddly, my sense of taste. It’s a different skill set, and you just have to adjust to what your strengths are.
     
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