Let's have a baby!

While I don't want one for at least another like, 8 years or so, I definitely wouldn't mind having a son and a daughter. I'm too young (with no prospective mother lol) so my opinion could change down the road, but right now that's what I would like. A family of 4.

 

When I was still a kid, my friends and I would say to each other that we were never having children. I'm not sure why, probably because the thought of it disgusted us for some reason. However, as I started to mature, I thought to myself that I wanted to have children. I can't imagine a happy future without them. My parents always tell me about all the happy memories they had raising me. I guess I want to experience it as well. Oh, and I want to have 3 children. At least one girl and one boy.

 

I might want to have no more than two children: one boy and one girl. I think that's a nice even number for a family. I don't have any names for them yet, but they'll come in time. It's not even my time to think about having children yet though. I still have other responsibilities such as studies and finding a partner to take care of lol.

 

I have always wanted children, ever since I was a little girl. But I don't want to have them out of wedlock.
I want 5 kids, I don't care about the genders. To some of y'all that's a high number, but I'm 3 of 10, so I also have lots of practice taking care of small children.

 

To be perfectly honest, having children is something that's never truly interested me. I do love children, don't get me wrong, but I fear that I wouldn't be able to play a good fatherly role: I'm worried I'll get too caught up with other things, and not be able to give a child the life it deserves.

Plus, there's not much hope of me getting a wife to even have the children with XD

 

I don't want children either and for several reasons. I used to want kids, but there are a lot of terrible, and I mean terrible parents out there that simply don't care about their children. They're just a tax deduction to them. Their children then turn out to be delinquents or so dumb that they can't even string two words together at the age of six. I may adopt in the future, but that is a big maybe. I personally like my freedom to do whatever I want. I wouldn't have that if I had a kid. Sure, I wouldn't mind raising a kid, but what people don't realize when having kids is that your life now belongs to your child. I'd rather be able to take my vacation and do whatever I want, save my money rather than spending it on a kid. I pay enough in bills right now anyway.

 

Oh, good, this topic is exactly what I thought it would be. I would be disappointed if the title ended up being a bait-and-switch. Moving right along.

I'll start at the end, and work my way backward. As I do not have plans to ever get married, by extension that means I never plan to have children either. However, I know attitudes can change and plans are flexible, but that is not the only reason for this.

I have been working as a volunteer with my church's Awana program for a number of years - in fact, today is my last day (this school year for Awana has ended); I had announced my stepping down several weeks back. While working with the program, which was quite rewarding in a number of ways, it has changed my stance to "I never want children" to "I never ever ever want children".

I will be frank - after 3 years of this, I have no idea how elementary school teachers (and even some of the other Awana leaders) manage to pull it off. Children are loud, squirrelly, always want their own way, and most of the time don't know any better. There are a few wisps of hope and light found in the children who think of the others more than themselves, but there are very few of those and it does not outweigh all of the rest. Handling a group of 20-30 children at a time (with the larger group usually being those in the lower half of grade school) is not easy, given how a child has an attention span of roughly 15 seconds. And there will always be a fair chunk of families who treat any child volunteer program (not just Awana) as a baby-sitting service. It's wrong, it's tragic, but it happens.

And this doesn't even take into account home life with a child (which I suppose feeds into the previous sentence of baby-sitting, as parents need a break oftentimes). I know several families who raise multiple infant children. There is always something going on, usually negative, as infants require near-constant attention to make sure they behave, don't wander off, or get sick. And oh dear do they get sick. It makes me wonder when all of that will abate and when the payoff will be...and I know it won't be for several years.

So I will close with this note: if you ever wish to pursue a volunteer position to work with children (Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, etc.), be prepared for the worst and to have some of your expectations dashed. And if you want a child of your own, you had damn well know what you're getting yourselves into. It is, without doubt, the greatest adventure you will ever embark upon, and will require all of your strength to thrive in it.

I don't mean to be morbid or negative, but a child is serious business, and I am not going to sugarcoat that.

 

You don't need a partner to reproduce

Anyways, I definitely want kids. That, to me, is the biggest thing a couple can go through and it can be very rewarding (though it can also suck, but you get to help decide which it is). However, whether the job I want will let me be a good father or not is a totally different question. xD

 

I wanna kids SO BADLY! but alas i am too young. Lets see after i am 25.

I really dont care what sex they are, but i think 2 is enough. One boy and one Girl would be good. Live in a small house. With out little kids and with our little lives.

 

Ever since I was very young, and still to this day, I do not, nor have I ever wanted even a single child. People change as they grow older, so I'm never gonna say "never". As it stands, I have a considerable amount of my young life left, and I'd rather live that all out first instead. Even then, there's a very good chance that I still won't want any children. It's not that I'm irresponsible, it's just the idea of having children that doesn't appeal to me. They're quite the expense, as well. There are a few names I'm fond of if I were to hypothetically have a kid. Wouldn't care if the child was a boy or girl; I'm unbiased.

 

I've wanted kids, and it's something that has grown more interesting the older I've gotten. Of course I want them to grow in a stable family, so I need a spouse first, which is it's own subject. I don't particularly care about the gender, though I'd like one of each at least. probably around 3 kids would be nice, as long as they were close together. Growing up together is important.

As for names, there's a reason I need to find a girl who's sensible. My name choices are really weird. Something like Qbill would be funny. Just putting a silent Q in front of a normal name. Talitha Cumi is a girls name that I've always loved, taken from the New Testament. and many more ridiculous things that will instantly get shot down because we don't want the kids to hate us. (Talitha is the only good one really). One name I want to avoid is Luke, because it would be too tempting to say "Luke I am your father" all the time

 

I really don't want kids. I'm not sure I can really say whether or not I'll ever HAVE kids, considering I still am a kid, but I have no plans or wants to have one right now. First, I really don't want to spend money on them. They're expensive. Secondly, I don't have the tolerance to have kids. I can hardly stand other people's kids, there's no way I could stand having one for myself. Thirdly, and this is where my spite kicks in, I dislike them. They're bratty, hyper, loud, and honestly make me want to punch them in the face. I literally cannot stand crying kids. It wouldn't be a good scenario for me or the child. Lastly, I'd honestly just rather spend time with whatever guy I settle with. I'd much rather be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want with my future husband than have kids slim down what I can do.

If I were to have a kid, though, I'd prefer it to be a girl. Not sure why. But, honestly, I can just say the sex would be female. I mean, since I'll be marrying a man, there's no way I can have kids biologically. So, yeah. I'd just really prefer a daughter over a son. As for naming, I think I'd name her something gender neutral, or something with nature. Names like Autumn, Blake and Violet come to mind.

 

I'm kind of torn on the subject. First off, kids cost SO MUCH ASDF MONEY! I mean seriously. I'll just get a goldfish, thanks very much.

On the other hand, I would like to leave a genetic legacy on the world. Like how apparently everyone is related to Genghis Khan? One day, provided all of my offspring reproduce and all of their offspring reproduce and so on, all of humanity will also be related to me. That's pretty awesome.

Lately though, I've been having urges of parenthood. I'm past the age when my parents became parents (not giving any numbers), and lately whenever I see a parent walking across the street or through the mall holding hands with their little 4-year old kid, I get to thinking "That could/should be me. I could/should be helping guide a small human through the world to be a better human than I am."

But like I said, kids cost lots of money. Much, much more money than condoms cost. Keep that in mind, boys and girls. You can buy a 12-pack of condoms for the same cost as just a few tiny jars of baby food. 12 pack of condoms can last you at least a week if you burn through them, or the same amount of money can feed a baby for just one day. Think about it.

 

Not right now, but when I get older and more mature, maybe I will adopt?

 

In the future, if I find that wife in the future. There is a ton of responsibility but I hope to leave some kids that can leave a positive impact on the world, however big or small. Its a pretty neat system, the whole parenthood deal. Who knows how many or what gender, but whatever is in my control I'm thinking 3 or 4 kids.

 

When I was a kid, my answer was always that I didn't ever want children of my own. And even now, that still hasn't changed; I admittedly don't get on very well with kids (and in fact, tend to feel very self-conscious and asocial around them for reasons of my own), wouldn't know anything about raising any even with help, and generally think it would be healthier for both sides if I decidedly never became a parent. Not to mention, I plan on living with my two best friends in the future, and all of us agree that we'd rather not have any kids of our own. The closest we plan on getting is raising a couple of animals together, but that's about all.

 

I've already decided that I will not have children of my own. Not, as most assume, because I dislike children, but because I am a genetic accident waiting to happen. I don't want to curse someone to live with crippling disability caused by my genes. I'll happily adopt a child who needs a home, but I adamantly refuse the idea of having a child that shares my genes.