Letting it go

When I clicked this topic I was expecting it to be something about Frozen... Curse you Elsa

I'm not generally someone who likes to hold a grudge. Obviously the more emotionally connected I am to what I have to let go, the harder it is for me. Though that can be applied to almost anyone. I think when it really hits home is when you have to let something go and know that you will never be able to have it back or feel that connective impulse from it again. Letting a loved one go is one of the hardest for me, but life is life and you have to keep going. People come and people go. The same applies with belongings and feelings. We are all going down some sort of long distorted path, but only by letting go can we truthfully move on and accept the fact that we are all alone no matter how many of us eventually reach the same end... wow that was deep.

 

I used to hold grudges a lot, but these days I tend to be more forgiving.

Although I can hold onto things like questions for a long time, and when I don't understand why someone acted a certain way and they didn't tell me before I can end up asking them months later.

When it comes to things like crushes, it really depends how much I like the person - But generally I do move on after a while, even if I really did love them.

 

I tend to ignore people, and usually let things go pretty quickly... at least I'll seem to. Deep inside, sometimes, I'll harbor a resentment for some people, but I try not to let this influence my actions and thoughts

 

Meanwhile I was thinking of a different Disney movie when I read the topic title.

Physical objects I hold on to because I'm convinced each and every one of them will come in handy in some MacGyver adventure sometime in the future. That says almost the whole thing. I have a 4 foot piece exterior-corner shaped sturdy compressed cardboard that I'm sure will come in handy in making a Rube Goldberg machine later. Well, probably not, but it's not taking up much space. Just like the other 100,000 things aren't taking up much space.

Grudges though, I don't think that tigers change their stripes. Someone scorns me bad enough, and I just stop interacting with them. We're not going to be friends again, so the best I can do is make sure we don't fight. As for the psychology of it... I don't know why. I wish I had an answer for you.

 

One time I bought a snickers and a friend said he wanted a bite man so I was like "ok its cool just a bite" but he only left like a quarter left man like what. Still lowkey butthurt about it cuz he betrayed my trust I thought he would abide by the rules of taking a bite.

As you can see I don't really have many serious things for which to let go of.

 

I'm a very sentimental nut! Once I get something, even if it's a little plush toy, I can't let go of it. I feel really sad when my house is re-arranged or renovated or when something that's been there for a long time is removed. I never have grudges, which is a point too. I don't have any other things I can remember, though.

 

When it comes to letting go grudges, I am not wanting to hold one all the time. If someone did something I disapprove in serious matters, when they apologize, I usually let go immediately and hope they don't do it again. But if they double cross or do it several times, then I'm going to have a hard time letting go unless they prove themselves for understanding the actions they kept doing is effecting me. I understand everyone deserves a chance, but there comes a time where I can't really let go especially emotional wounds... :/

 

i am a person that tends to hold a grudge​

and thats simply because i do not care for being mistreated and then giving people a second chance that easily​

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i mean, once people been a real bitch to you.... how big is the chance they will do it again and perhaps behind your back the next time but still try to fak with you real bad....​

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i know a lot of people say sorry and apologise but do you really think most of the time, they actually genuinely mean their apology?​

the way i see it; people never change​

somebody who is a bully when they are 15.... they will still be a bully when they are 30... maybe not as bad but they will still have the tendency to do lame shit and bully people here and there​

believe me, there are millions of ''grown ups'' out there that are still acting the same as they did back in high school​

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i know i sound negative but i am just being realistic i think ​

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ANYWAY​

when it comes to general stuff​

like for instance.... i broke something or did something wrong​

or after an unfortunate event.... i have taught myself to let things go ​

i wasn't good at it when i was younger but nowadays i am just fine​

i learned a lot and i got a lot of life experience now​

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sometimes you just need to accept what happened or else you cannot move forward and live your life freely and in peace​