When I lost my great grandmother I was certainly lost. The most cliche answers I can offer that did work were letting the emotions out, crying is said to be undignified but it does help, and talking with people about the person, what they meant to you. Explaining why you are feeling that way can really help. My PMs or DMs are always open if you need to talk.
Talk to someone you absolutely trust, someone who you can be real with. Let yourself cry in front of them (something that took me a long time to learn how to do) and accept their comfort.
All advice above is good. Here’s some of mine: If you have any stuffed animals/cats/dogs/whatever else that can be hugged, go for it. Also, when you think you’re done crying or want to think about something else, you can go watch some funny videos on youtube or do/eat things you like. You also can write/draw/do something for the person you lost, as a goodbye gift.
Thanks guys, this really helps And the video thing if what i've been doing. i've even used my last resorted and it kinda worked
It can possibly help talking to someone and letting all the emotions out. Another thing I'd recommend is to do something you're passionate about to keep you occupied and keep your mind at ease, even better if said activity can include other people. Grieving alone is okay but it shouldn't be prolonged... sometimes we need other people to help lift us up during tough times in our lives.
I think i'm going to do that, Pokémon has always been my passion and i used to play it a lot with them, so that's what i'm gonna do
Everything they have mentioned is good for the sorrow part, but you will have some anger towards the event as well. It is okay to feel the anger, it is a human reaction to be angry for the loss. My advice, do something physical to release it. Playing a game like football, running, shadow boxing (fighting against an imagined opponent aka thin air and doing fighting moves no matter how silly they look) are all good things. Excercise or cleaning can be good too. Another thing to do is write out your anger, read it aloud to yourself, then burn what you wrote (and yes I mean light the paper on fire IF it is safe to do so.) These are things that help me process my anger and they work. As far as the grief, I'd take time to reflect on the good that you shared with that person and they changed your life for the better. Take a day with mutual friends to celebrate that friend, have a party in their memory. Write a letter to your friend to let them know how special they were to you. Don't bottle up the emotions. Let them out then let them go. Remember that true friends are never seperated by death, as long as you speak their name and remember them they are still here. This may sound sappy, but it is the best advice I can give. I hope it helps.
When my great-grandad was dying, his last words to me were "Don't hold back. Never hold back. There is no try, only do." What he meant was for me to let it all out - the sadness, the anger, everything. The more you keep it inside of you, the more it builds up and consumes you. Don't try to keep it. Let it out. Everyone will understand. The best way is to talk to somebody you trust - grieving in company allows you to get the raw emotions off your chest and the rest that still bites at you will fade away eventually. Just be patient and time will work in your favour. Hope this helps and, as a family tradition of mine, I utter in the name of our Lord and Saviour: Amicum tuum aeternam Paradisi. Requiescat in pace.
