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Self Esteem

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Azazel, Jan 2, 2017.

  1. Azazel

    Azazel Better count your blessings

    Diancie Egg
    (Diancie Egg)
    Level 8
    Jan 18, 2015
    Hows yours? Do you see yourself in a positive light? What are some tips you have for those struggling with self esteem issues
  2. Orangesyum88

    Oct 16, 2016
    I too struggle with self esteem issues due to my weight. I show my weight more for I am petite and short.
    I don't normally try to let it get to me, all I have to do is to watch what I eat, eating less portions and exercise.

    The more I push myself to get it done, the more happier I feel that I am finally doing some thing for myself to look and feel good.
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  3. The_Maxeroni

    The_Maxeroni Youngster

    Jan 2, 2017
    I struggle with self esteem a lot since I'm often invisible and quiet but lately I've been trying to change that and feel better about myself.
    I think it was because my mindset has always been negative and I always surrounded myself with bad influences so I'm trying really hard to just take it easy and not overthink everything. I'm also trying to surround myself with positive things (friends, words, etc.)

    So far, it's been working pretty good!
  4. Cadbberry

    Cadbberry Dad: 76.... Or Cad: 76

    (Eevee (KS))
    Level 12
    May 25, 2014
    Marshadium Z ★★★★★Love Ball ★★★★★GS Ball ★★★★★Mewnium Z  ★★★★★
    I have a lot of issues with self-esteem, I have none, to be honest. There is a lot I could get into but people have treated me poorly making me unsure and scared of everything, no trust in myself and very weak minded about my personal being. I don't like to talk about it much in the open but I am open to talking more in private about it. Just need to try and accept who I am
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  5. Lord Vain

    Lord Vain ✯Drifting Digital God✯

    Dec 8, 2014
    Mario Mushroom ★Legendary Triforce ★★
    Eh, I'd say my self-esteem isn't all too bad. When I was a wee lad it wasn't all that great and I was admittedly quite the mess, just easily upset and stuff like that, but once I got into high school I eventually came to a conclusion at age 13...if I mattered so little to the people who tried to drag me down so much, then why should the negative things they try to throw my way matter to me? This in itself was where my self-given nickname "Vain" came into being, which stands for "insignificance", I felt as though I mattered very little to a lot of my peers at a young age and in turn the feeling became quite mutual. I didn't owe them a damn thing, if anything I only owed myself and my loved ones stuff, but sure as hell not anybody else unless given a good reason to think otherwise. So, I stopped caring about the people who dragged me down, and eventually I just became more self-aware. Insults were like amusing compliments to me, but at the same time, all my emotional control had resulted in me becoming rather stone-faced. That wasn't exactly as good, though I did eventually grow out of being that way as much, which was nice and in turn resulted in me actually helping a lot of people over the years as I warmed up again, whether they were a friend or not...still tend to be that way to this day.

    My overall resolve wasn't exactly something that's just easily done though, I've been told, it's not like just anybody can one day stop caring about the negative opinions of others. I do often try to push the good people I meet towards self-care and self-love though, to better understand their own worth when they may be doubting it and gradually work on fighting against what toxic thoughts may come up due to their past experiences or whatever else, since I understood what it was like to be alone and feel worthless all too well. The world is rough and life is hard, so it's important to look out for yourself and just try to bypass anybody that may give you unreasonable criticism, they're just not worth it, whereas your own well being certainly is. I guess I've also become rather modest most of the time due to it all too, often giving very minor attention to whatever compliments I may get, which is funny since in the past people have assumed the "Vain" stood for its typical definition of "conceit".

    Ah, but yes, in the end I can only suggest that people who struggle with this stuff always try their best to not beat themselves up too much when it can be avoided, or to just strive towards that sort of lifestyle however they can, to heal and grow towards being the kind of person they can be happy with. Just try to love yourselves and the good people you have in your life, learning lessons from the people who didn't stick around for whatever reason, whether good or bad, when you can. It's always important to know when something is not your fault too, you're only human and you deserve your own forgiveness just as much as the forgiveness of others, so that's something else to try and keep in mind. It's not easy, but as is the case with most things, impossible only exists if you let it here.
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  6. Eclipse

    Level 82
    Apr 3, 2015
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    I have a very strange situation in regards to self-esteem. I actually don't have any at all (or at least that is what appears to be the case), but it isn't due to issues or such - it's because I don't care enough to think about myself. I don't think well of myself at all, but I don't think poorly of myself either.

    I am someone who defines itself primarily by the duties I perform - my life and the events therein is a series of tasks and obligations to do and fulfill, rarely done for personal benefit. The closest thing I really have for personal benefit is just to separate from all of my obligations and either go rest or do something I enjoy, which may or may not be with friends. (Only a couple days ago, a friend wanted to play some Magic: The Gathering with me, and we were at it for at least 4 hours just unwinding. It was a good day.)

    I am partially concerned with how valuable I am to other people - partially. Sometimes I care. Sometimes I don't. But in the end I'm no better or worse off than I was before, save for maybe a moment or two of breathing room.
  7. brsajo

    brsajo Girl Boss Baby

    Level 16
    Dec 31, 2014
    I'm half and half. I have super high self-esteem about my personality and likeability, but pretty low self-esteem when it comes to how I handle my life and my ability to do the things I need to do to survive in this world. I'm a super hardcore procrastinator and am clueless about a lot of the general knowledge all my friends seem to have so I always doubt myself and get anxious when I have to do important things like getting my drivers licence, setting up my bank account, calling uni when there's a problem, choosing a phone plan and other essential life activities like that. But I value my contribution to other people's lives more than having a 'successful' life so for the most part I see myself in a good light.
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  8. Ryan Smith

    Ryan Smith Animation Writer

    Jul 28, 2013
    I have the double whammy of being looked up to by my Youtube fans and trying to keep my own head above water when everything programmed into my mind since a young age is pushing against it.
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  9. ClefairyKid

    ClefairyKid (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻)

    Dec 15, 2016
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    I think I can be pretty good most of the time, for example, in distinguishing whether something someone said was warranted or not, and usually if it's something obvious such as a guy giving an opinion on my appearance just because I'm a woman, then I don't care, because my body is not my actions, and the actions are what I have had something to do with (the body I was just born into, not something I think I take much credit for haha).

    I take matters of achievement most seriously, but I have a pretty strong sense of when I am accomplished or not (for example, I'm much more offended by someone telling me I'm not a 'real' gamer because I don't happen to like violent videogames, although I know I put thousands of hours into them and dedicate time and resources to completing them to very completionist standards and there is also no such thing as a fake gamer anyway logically). I don't think I end up wanting to cry about that though, its definately an irritated/angry feeling.

    I think I have a useful advantage in that peer pressure isn't bad for me, I'm very stubborn and if I think that this colour or pattern or show or hatetc, is the thing for me, it won't matter what everyone else thinks I'm going to keep liking it regardless of how harsh people are about it.
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  10. LostSpirit

    (Oddish (J))
    Level 21
    Aug 5, 2014
    I wouldn't say I have the greatest self-esteem, but it's there. I'm not exactly pretty, but I'm not "ugly" either. I have my own issues like I'm more hairy than I would like, I'm not exactly the skinniest person either. However, in the large scope of things, who really cares? Physical appearance changes, it's whatever.
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