Taking Offense

I'd like to tell myself I don't get offended often, but then I'd just be lying. Truth is that I do get offended occasionally, but for the most part, I bite my tongue. But during those moments, I'm usually only mildy offended. I'll sometimes say/do something even if I'm mildly offended though, so I guess it just depends on the situation.

When I'm fully offended, I don't bother holding back, because there's no point. I can only think of 1 instance where I was fully offended (but I'm positive that there were more), and unfortunately, it was one of the many instances where I wish I held my tongue instead of lashing out. It ended up being one of the most angry and memorable nights of my life, and I really wish it wasn't. But that's a different story for a different time.

For the most part, the way I see it, taking serious action when you're offended doesn't do much good most of the time. If it's just an argument on a forum thread for example, that's a different story. But if it's something in real life where bad things could possibly happen, it's best to hold your tongue and ignore it.

 

I can get offended pretty quickly on certain subjects. The reason is simple, I was bullied until the end of high school. Many people would think that would give you a tough skin but it actually makes you hypersensitive and more aware of the feelings of others. It takes much more to offend me nowadays compared to back then but there are some things I just have a hair trigger for. When it happens I do my best to bite my tongue and vent it appopriatelly when I get the chance. If I can't then I will remove myself from the situation. It doesn't matter how angry you get though, do not give them the same treatment you think you were given. No matter what all humans deserve to be treated with the same basic level of respect and dignity. You don't have to like or agree with what other people say, but good people died so that you could have your beliefs and they could have theirs. Therefore you have to respect their beliefs, because if you don't then you are insulting the people who died so you could disagree with them.

So do I get offended easily, sometimes. But when I do I work very hard to talk it out and work past it. If I can't get along with you then there is a door I can walk out of, because you have just as much of a right to be here as I do. I'm not a Christian, but I still believe that you should love your neighbor and defend their rights just as much as you would defend yours.

 

I get offended very quickly, especially if something I hold closely to my heart is mocked (like Dark Pit). I find people telling me that I get offended too often, but I can't help it; not in my weak state of self currently. If someone talks about me as if I am an alien (and sadly, it happens), then I also get offended, as I believe people can not be so absurd to talk about others behind their back... when they are there... but it also happens.

 

I tend to offend people more than I get offended. I don't really remember the last time I got offended, to be honest. I'd probably just deal with it, though.

 

i don't believe i get offended that much really​

but sometimes, i meet people, online or real life and they just piss me off because they get offended so easily​

it does not matter how you put things, wether you fkin kind and putting up a smile or not​

they will faking take offense anyway and i really dislike such people​

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i honestly don't get it how such people live their life omg​

i mean, i know i can be harsh at times but i am not brutal about things or rude ​

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not long ago i was dealing with somebody online, omg she was taking every little thing i said, my honest opinions on things and me not even being rude or brutal, no matter how i put the shit, she took offense again and again and made me look like a horrible monster who was trying to be nothing but rude 24/7 whilst infact she insulted me and judged me couple times while she barely knew me....​

like...all i ever did was being kind to her but then at times when i wanted to be honest i simply got bashed at and why?​

because she is one of those who cannot handle the truth, them people who need a reality check but they do not want one because they think they are better than everybody else​

disgusting such people lol ​

 

so many people are easily offended nowadays

it's definitely gotta do with the fact that online communities and the like let these people huddle together

it kind of keeps reinforcing their belief that they should be allowed to be so offended by minuscule things rather than learn what sarcasm and taking the piss out of something means

rather than grow as people they stay in their little shell


but yeah i don't get offended at anything i would say
i can only get annoyed if someone says something and tries too hard i guess

 

"There are those looking to offend, and there are those looking to be offended." - The Nostalgia Critic, on comedy

In regards to myself, when it comes to being offended, I tend to shrug things off, as most of the time, given my company, whatever is said doesn't have malicious intent. There are a few highly specific topics that will highly bother me, and whenever that comes up, if it's amongst people I don't know I'll simply walk away and go somewhere else. Around those I do know, I just ask that person to stop immediately, either changing the subject or not bring it up again, and I brook no disagreement. Thankfully, given the company I keep, they will respect that.

Now, when it comes to offending, if I do end up doing this I'll do so on accident. I never look for opportunities to mentally harm people, and at times even carefully choose my words so that what I say cannot be misconstrued as being offensive. Should it come off as such I will apologise and communicate my true intent clearer - while I did before, I probably wasn't clear enough about it.

That said, it's also possible to carefully choose my words so that what I say will offend someone. I admit that I've done this before, and in those cases it was to address a very real problem, something that had to be taken care of or removed. Some of you may view this as odd, but let me pose it to you this way. If you saw a friend who was engaging in behaviour that was harmful to others and/or themselves, would you tell them up front that what they were doing was wrong or bad and it had to stop? Obviously there are ways to say that without the means to cause offense, but if it is serious enough to you about the well-being of your friend, you might not care that much about the words you use - or, in my case, I care very much about the words I use, as I would choose them precisely for the occasion.

That's what I'm referring to. It is known as jeopardising the friendship for the sake of your friend's betterment - because, every so often, you'll have to do this if you see your friends in harmful habits...and they may do the same for you too. I have done this before - come to think of it, I believe I did this recently. I do not regret the words I chose, for this very reason.

 

Sure I'll get offended, but I don't do very much about it. If something conflicts my beliefs, especially when its said to me or another person in ignorance. I'm not going to like it, and probably judge the person pretty hard, but rarely will I react. I tend to just cast my mental spite towards them without saying anything and then move on.

 

Honestly, I feel like there is very little that somebody could say to me that would make me truly offended. People often try to take being offended as a position of power nowadays, and people will find anything and everything to be offended by. Let's take the hypothetical situation that you are paired with a woman (and that you are a man) for a martial art of your choice, and make the assumption that there is a notable size and strength difference. You essentially have two options, the first being to train normally irrespective of any biological differences between you and your partner. A lot of people would take offense to that, feeling as if you were trying to hurt them. The other option is to go easy on them, which again depending on the person they might choose to be offended by, since you're not treating them equally to if it was a guy. I guess the third option would be to refuse to train with her, which again can cause offense. Probably not the best example, but I've been in numerous instances with people I didn't know, where no matter what I did there's the possibility that the other person would take offense to it. In the situation above, you're either beating up a woman or a sexist, depending on the person involved.

What I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't have to walk on eggshells to try to not offend you. If you have a differing opinion to me on something, explain to me why your opinion is correct and mine is incorrect instead of taking offense and storming off (normally after hypocritically insulting me to try to offend me back). Nobody is running around going out of their way to offend you unless they're an a**hole, and if they are then it's obvious and it should be fairly easy to ignore them. I struggle to think of a situation where it's understandable to be offended to the point of doing something about it.

 

If I get offended, I just keep it inside, knowing that whatever the other person's going on about, they're probably pretty backwards and simple-minded inside. It just rolls off me like oil and water though, so I don't terribly mind.

The only things that do offend me are things that are generally pretty universally known to be crummy things to do, so if you say something about it, someone else will probably have your back. Insulting someone's family, homeland, disability, those things. Nine times out of ten if I tell that person "Hey, not cool. Really not cool", someone else will jump in and say "Darn right, dude, you can't just go around insulting someone's family/homeland/disability like that" and BOOM! That fool is momentarily a social outcast and will hopefully learn from the experience. Hopefully. I might be too optimistic on that.

 

I know I can offend people, but I never do it intentionally. I offend people because I say things the wrong way or just ask wrong questions about things in a really innocent way (I hope you understand what I mean, that's the best way I can describe it).
I don't really know how easy it is to offend me, but I tend to feel really down after something like that happens, because I still tend to see it as a failure, even though that's not always the case. I know I have arranged most of my life in such a way that I can avoid offending people as much as possible: if I don't bother them, then they won't bother me.

 

most of the time i don't have a reaction to people being insulting and such, but some insults do anger me greatly. namely, any that aren't insults to begin with and are basically insulting anyone who falls under a group. (so gay, autistic, those kinds of "insults".)

i can be pretty fiery when it comes to stuff like homophobia and racism too; treating someone differently for something they can't control will earn you a prolonged rant from yours truly, so kindly refrain from doing so if in close proximity. or just be a decent person and don't do it at all, i guess.

i also tend to get frustrated at people who are just jerks for no reason.

 

The only time I really get offended is when people say racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic...you get the picture, things to others. That's just not shit you say to people. Jokes on stereotypes, mocking an oppressed group, that just doesn't fly with me. You don't have the right to laugh at other people's suffering, you just don't. Call me an SJW or whatever the fuck you want, but saying offensive shit you KNOW is offensive is one of the worst things you CAN say.

 

I'm not one to get offended over little things, but one can only handle so much BS.
I know someone who seems to be offended by every little thing. She doesn't like to be objectified, but then goes objectifying herself. A comment on how a person likes her, she tells the dude to "f*ck off" because she's "loyal" to her boyfriend. No one is trying to offend her, but she's so in her own world that she thinks they are. I've tried talking to her about it, but she jut doesn't listen. She gets offended and says I'm a "b*tch" because I don't agree with her. It's whatever, and I know I shouldn't be ticked off by it, but we used to be best friends.

 

I used to get easily offended in the past.
Having grown past that now, I just take everything as it is.

No point getting offended, when other means can be used.
That are far less imposing.

 

I don't get offended easily, i think let them say. It happened only once when i got offended and shouted like crazy people( thank god i Dont swear) and i ended up with a big fight. But except that i never got offended that much. I try to hold my tongue back if its nothing too serious but if there is something really serious then i talk in a polite way. (That incident taught me something).

 

It depends really, does your joke belittle others? If so then yes, I'll be offended. Things like using autism as an insult really offend me.

 

I remember sitting down 1 day and looking at what grinded my gears and I was like "why does this offend me" and just trying to break it down and I realized that this was fucking pointless alongside the whole idea of being offended now I can't hold proper conversations anymore good shit fam

Shit that used to offend me just kinda makes me laugh audibly now; maybe I have the internet to thank for that. Shitty racial slurs, profanities thrown back and forth, personal attacks by immature peers kinda make you a man over night - or in this case over the years

Now a big problem I have is managing my crude sense of humor with more sensitive peers like once I made a morality joke on someone's dad who was a cop and everybody just froze at me like I shot jesus

To be fair from the beginning though? Things like a 13yo calling you a fag shouldn't be offending on its own, really