The Friendzone: Is it real?

I kinda agree with Doima. It's a thing, but it's only a thing because of people who unwillingly get themselves there, not some sort of woman trap to get gonad-driven slaves.
And I think both the guys that get themselves into the friendzone and the girls that let that be are kinda foolish. I mean, if you are guy, you can only have it happen to you like ONCE, and even then it's kind of your fault anyway, because you should be able to tell being over pleasant and agreeing to everything and being clingy to a FRIEND is not the way to go, and that if you confess to a girl that's not sure about it she will probably say no even if she likes you a little bit. (Why would she when you are such a mild person anyway?)
And then the girls are kinda foolish for letting it be, because, as far as I know, there's no way to keep a healthy friendship without knowing that the guy has the hots for you if you don't do anything about it. Either it's awkward all the time, or you are leading him on (maybe only in his mind), or both. But there's no reason to put up with some guy drooling over you all the time when clearly he does not want to be just your friend.

I was actually friendzoned but I got over it and now the girl is actually my friend! No ulterior motives at all, it's great. You know, being friends with someone? It's cool.

 

Despite my vote in the poll... Yes I think its real, and, like Doima said, people just need to move on.

 

The polls wording is a little one-sided. It's implying that only men complain about or believe in the friendzone, which is false.

As for me.... I mean, I guess it's a real thing in concept. You like someone, but they only want to be friends, that's the friendzone. It's only applying a name to a concept that already existed. But I definitely don't think it's something to complain endlessly about.

 

You Belong With Me by Taylor Swift is practically Friendzone: The Song. She claims to be a nice down to earth girl, unlike the girl who actually gets the guy. Because nice girls finish last... or something. So she decided to make an angsty song about it, and it became extremely popular because girls identified with the lyrics. Just because they don't use the word friendzone doesn't make it not about the friendzone.

 

I think Taylor Swift is kind of a bad example but I can see where you're coming from. I've only actually ever seen men complain about the friend zone, though that's not something to be proud of really. Instead of complaining about that kind of stuff you should just move on from that person and find some one you like who's in to you too. Not as easy said as done though, of course.

 

Considering the fact that Taylor Swift can score most men in the US, yeah, I'd say her song doesn't count. At all.

 

yes the friend zone is real i have had female friends who have said that they have used it.

also it really is the guys fault if you feel like you are getting used or someone tells you that you are being used evaluate your position i their life and change it if you see yourself becoming something of thing that they use then just ask them if there is a place for you and if they say no then leave or settle for being a friend and don't fall for the old "i cant be with you.............yet"

just move on.

 

That's irrelvant. The guy she liked only wanted to be friends with her. He wanted the girl who she thought was bad for him, rather than her, the nice girl. And all the women across the world who enjoyed that song can't "score most men", but many of them still identified with the lyrics.