Think about the children

Mmm, I don't think I will, because I don't see myself as a motherly type, I'd get really stressed and stuff and it wouldn't be a good environment for the child. If I was better suited I would, like more independent and stuff.

 

While I love interacting with (well behaved) kids, I just don't see myself as a mom:

--just raising one to age 18 is at least 250 million dollars (without factoring the college education into the equation)

--I don't want to get involved in the so called "mommy wars"

--Isn't 7.1 billion people on the planet enough?

 

I know that quite some time ago I made a post in a similar topic...
Ah! Here it is.

While it has been nearly nine months since I made that post, the only thing that has changed about my current situation is that I occasionally assist in Sunday school working with children between the ages of 3 and 6. The work is occasionally enjoyable, but beyond that, my opinion on the matter has not changed in the slightest.

 

That point is irrelevant if you adopt. I'm not the dating or relationship type so I'm likely gonna try to adopt an orphan one day, when I'm financially stable.

I feel like today's world is overly reliant on technology and media. I'd try to limit the child's access to it, to make sure technology doesn't replace social interaction and such. I don't want the kid to end up messed up like me. Staying calm is important, losing your temper is never a good thing. So I'd have to try to stay calm. Overall, I think I'd probably want to do anything for the kid, though I'd try to avoid spoiling them.

A boy or a girl? I don't know, when I try to picture my kids I always see one of each, probably twins.

 

Okay, granted, I don't know exactly how much it does cost to raise a child, but I'm pretty sure it's less than a quarter billion dollars USD. ZWD perhaps, but not a quarter-billion American dollars. It's expensive to raise a kid, but not that expensive.

I eagerly anticipate the day when I become a father. More and more lately I'm finding myself being more okay interacting with the miniature humans we call "kids". I'd also like to biologically father at least one child (eventually, just like Genghis Khan, I will be an ancestor to all living humans! Well, it's that or ancestor to none of them.), and I think I'd prefer boys because I think they ultimately cost less and because it's probably easier to relate to someone who's closer to mini-me. Of course, I'd love the kid either way, it's just a slight preference.

If I play my cards right, this might even become true for me within a year. It will be exciting, if nothing else, if that is the case.

(I wonder, are we going to meet BiohazardJr soon?)

 

I grew up as 3 of 10. I have some experiencee with parenthood as I watch(ed) my younger siblings.

I want at least five children. My first girl will be named Kathleen in honor of my grandma.

 

I really really REALLY want to be a father when I'm older.

Adoption or through myself and my partner? Well, I'd prefer the latter, but if I end up falling in love with someone who can't have kids then of course I'd adopt. And hey, maybe we could adopt if they could anyway.

What kind of parent would I be? I'd love my kids to pieces and I'd want to protect them, but overprotective parents rarely do any good. I wouldn't interfere with their crap past a certain age unless it was clear something was up. I'd want to teach my kids PROPERLY. Not be one of those people who acts like you need to shelter kids from stuff. Like, not the type who'd lie about someone just "being asleep". If I'm gonna give MY parents credit where it's due, they didn't pretend people weren't dead when they were and I accepted it pretty easily.

I'd also want to be a parent my kids could TRUST. Parents who get suspicious of everything and basically make kids afraid of getting into trouble when they find out stuff aren't doing a good job if you ask me. I like to think of myself as being someone who's very accepting, and that wouldn't be any different with my kids. Like, if I found out my teenage daughter was pregnant, I'd certainly be surprised and concerned, but I wouldn't explode about it, because teenagers ARE reckless and if they're upset (which let's be honest they probably would be) then getting angry is just going to make things worse and make them dislike me. Don't get me wrong, I'd try to prevent that situation from happening, I'd teach my kids about healthy relationships and whatever, and I'd still discipline them, but I wouldn't ever want to make them uncomfortable like my parents have made me throughout my whole life. I'd want to be able to trust my kids and for them to trust me.

And of course, coming back to the accepting part, I'd accept them for what they were and wouldn't question it (unless I felt they were an asshole or something). I wouldn't act like it was weird for my son to like "girly" things and wouldn't refer to stuff like that as being for either gender, I'd accept their sexuality (you have no idea how much the kinds of parents who treat their kids weirdly for that sort of stuff piss me off), their friends, etc., but I'd still step in if I felt they were maybe doing something that's actually bad.

Oh yeah, names. My favourites are Lucah, Morgan, and Connor. Which, although that's sure to change throughout my lifetime and I'll have a significant other's favourites to account for, is pretty convenient, because I want three kids at most, and unless I had three daughters then all three of those names would get used. Of course, with the factor of names being down to my partner as well, is kinda rendered moot, but I mean, at least ONE of my favourite names would probably get used.

also i think having twins would be adorable

 

Kids? Me? No, I can't imagine myself becoming a mother. I really don't feel comfortable around kids and think they're just annoying and noisy. In the street I live in, there are quite a few families with young kids that play outside every day, and all the noise they make is very, very annoying when you're trying to do your homework or just try to concentrate yourself in general. Plus: even if I ever decided to have kids, someone would have to take care of them, since I really plan to achieve something in my future.
Also, if I want kids, I should find a man who wants me first lol

Sorry buddy, but all I could think of when I read the first half of the sentence is "Where is the baby?" (I did finish reading your post though!)

I know a Dutch study on the costs of raising kids showed up that raising a kid costs a family about 200,000 Euros, so I can second this point.

Oh wow, I have serious respect for that. I grew up as the oldest of two, and I already hate all the nuisance my brother can cause. I can't even imagine how it is to live in a house with nine siblings...

 

I noticed that as well, and while it really had nothing to do with childbirth, I thought the allusion was too amusing that I chose to keep it as is. Glad you noticed too.

 

I'm still 14 (you could call me the youngest sibling of the family of Lake Valor!), so I guess it is very early to start thinking about kids. To be honest, I'm a little scared at that fact, but raising someone to be a kind, good hearted person that everyone looks to for help would be very rewarding! I love children because they are so innocent and beautiful. I will accept the child no matter who they are! I will teach them good morals and try and keep them from technology. I don't want to yell at them or drive them into a point where they hide things from me because of fear.

But the concept of childbirth does scare me...

 

As much as I would love to have a child of my own, I don't think I could deal with the pain. However, if I do end of having one or two, I wouldn't mind. Of course, I would try to adopt a kid as well. Really it doesn't matter what gender they are.

 

I honestly don't want kids. They're a drain on my resources, and I can't imagine bringing a child up in the twisted world we live in. Not to sound fake deep, but I'd rather just spare them the suffering. Plus, I just don't feel as if I'd ever be prepared to hold another life as my responsibility. It'd probably just be too much for me.

 

I want to have 1 or 2 later down the line. Probably not until my 30s, though and definitely not before 24 haha
I'll make sure they're as evil as me

 

I absolutely love the thought of having children, I really want my own child some day, and most likely have it as one of my own rather than adopting one. But hey, the future could see me adopting one!

Whether it's likely I have a child however is unknown to me. I'm yet to find a partner in romance, and part of me feels I never will, but I still hope and dream about it. I understand that doesn't necessarily rule out the option of adoption but I'd much rather raise my child having two parents rather than one. But I'd most likely steal the child most of the time anyway

Gender really doesn't matter to me, and I don't have any names picked out. I'd probably pick something nice like Phoebe or Lou or something for them.

As for how I'd raise them? I suppose I'd raise them up on my morals. Lessons such as not holding grudges, being caring, all that, and most importantly, to enjoy life no matter what gets thrown at you. Speaking of

I get this, but that's not fair to assume the child won't make the best of their life. Sure the world is twisted, but I personally? I still see good in it. And in my opinion, it's entirely possible to teach your kids that too. Not to belittle your other statements, they all stay completely fair and reasonable, but I just wanted to chime in on this.

So, yeah I'd love children one day. I love their company, and just wish I could have one of my own to raise. A guy can hope!